Everyone has something that they are afraid of. Everyone knows that you can run from your fears, but you can’t hide from them.
But what if……
What if sometimes the fear is just under the surface?
But what if……
What if instead of facing our fears that we just ignore them. Pretend they don’t even exist?
Will that make them go away?
Reality and past experiences say no.
Someone recently asked me what is it that I’m afraid of when it comes to my running right now. (I’m talking actual running not running away from my fears). After thinking about it, I knew in my heart the answer.
The fear of not being good enough.
Once I had said this out loud, I knew the truth of my answer. I had the answer before she even asked the question. You see the night before, I had had a dream. Seriously. In my dream I went out to my car and ALL my running magnets were removed from the back of my car.
Nothing……… Empty space where my pride used to be.
Silly dream, but it speaks volumes. And then it begs to question, who do I have to be good enough for? Not my family. Not my friends. Not my ever so supportive running community. Not my co-workers. Not the strangers along courses. All I need is to be good enough for me and why isn’t my best good enough?
It’s time to deal with the unpleasant truth. A truth I’ve spoken of before, but still am grappling with I admit. It’s not easy to let go of expectations realistically or unrealistically that you put upon yourself. It’s not so easy to deal with unpleasant truths that you want to ignore. And most of all when you finally face the unpleasantness of it all, you realize that you were holding onto things for all the wrong reasons.
But letting go doesn’t mean giving up. It doesn’t mean putting away my running shoes. It doesn’t mean pushing my limits. It means letting go of the things that are holding me back. I’m not talking about holding me back from PR’s or such. I’m talking about holding me back from taking the next step.
Yes, if it was that easy the world would be a better place. But I’m talking about acceptance that things will be different and that’s ok.
I’m not a person of change. I know this to be true. My mother often asks me, “What’s new.” I often respond, “Nothing and that’s a good thing.” But the truth is that you have a choice in life, either change with it or live in the past and miss out on the possibilities of the future.
It’s time to look forward. It’s time to change with the times. It’s time to accept where I am today….
I am a woman who struggles due to her Hypoparathyroidism with limitations that I did not have before. Pretending they are not there, will not make them go away. I’ve been trying that and it hasn’t worked. They are still there, but I make it look easy:):)
That does not mean I am not a runner anymore. It just means that I need to learn to change. Change expectations. Change the way I train. Change the way I run by embracing the run/walk method whole heartily this time. Change is scary but sometimes necessary and often good.
It also means that you are open to new opportunities and I’ll be honest there is a new opportunity that I’m hoping comes my way. One that if I accept that I need to be willing to change to fully enjoy and experience. (Yes, that’s a teaser:)