Why are we also perpetually putting our happiness in the waiting room?
I will be happier when I get a new job….
I will be happier when I’m single/married…..
I will be happier when I can fit into a size x again….
I will be happier when I loose X number of pounds…..
I will be happier when I can hit X pace, PR, finish a certain event…..
I will be……
What if we just focus on the will be and see where that takes us?
What if instead of putting our happiness in the waiting room, we focus on what we can do to be happy where we are?
Easier said than done and we all know that.
We live in a society where we are always looking for the next shiny object that is supposed to make us happier. Supposed to make us feel complete. We live in a society that also knows that the discontent makes money.
Now it may seem like I am saying not to have goals…. not to strive for things…… Not to look forward but thats not what I’m saying at all. I am saying we must learn to embrace where we are, what we have, and what we can do in our lives who anything we do will never be good enough.
It also doesn’t help that many of us feel like we are in a holding pattern since the beginning of the Covid Pandemic. NO LIFE DIDN’T STOP even if it is not the same but in many ways a lot is still on hold.
When I was in top form chasing sub 2 half marathons (check), 25 minute 5K (never got it only hit 26 minutes) and a 4:30 half (another miss); these goals kept me motivated. They inspired me to push, but the chase is what made me happy. The disappoints may have been real in not hitting goals, but they also weren’t life changing when I didn’t reach them just as they weren’t when I did.
I was happy with the chase and any goals achieved were the cherry on top.
Right now, I am trying to motivate myself for just the chase. So much to be done and not enough time to do it is keeping the motivation at bay. Many of us are in the same boat because of jobs, family responsibilities, and just the day to day of life. Right now I keep waiting for the motivation to find me, but what I have to do is find the motivation. I’m looking…… I’m really looking…….
If you seek, you will find…..
Motivation…… I’m coming for you…… Is that considered motivation? lol