It’s hard not to compare yourself to others. I wonder if it’s human nature.
Yesterday I completed my longest run since my 50K. I ran 14 miles and to be honest, I didn’t run the whole thing. During this time, the baddest BAMR that I know was completing her I believe third FULL Ironman. She truly is amazing.
You know what?
Her amazing and mind boggling feats do not cancel out my hard fought 14 miles.
You know why?
It’s an apple and an orange.
Because I am in competition with no one but myself. Yes, right now, I am not the best competitor, but still.
Some of us (and I admit sometimes me too, but only briefly) think….
I’ll never be as fast as….
I’ll never run as far as….
I’ll never be blah, blah, blah…
You know what?
It’s all noise. It’s all a distraction. It means nothing. It keeps us from our potential. For a long time I let what others could do that I couldn’t hold me back. I haven’t in a long time. I have the feeling that Meb and others at the top of their game don’t do this. Not because they are better than the rest of us (which lets be honest, they are). It is because they have confidence in themselves and their abilities. Yes, it’s probably much easier to do if your Meb, but there can only be one Meb.
For the average person, having confidence in oneself is hard. It means putting yourself out there even just in our own mind. Sometimes we talk ourselves out of something by saying we can’t do it. On some level it is easier to doubt ourselves than to try and then fail. Hence the reason I haven’t really committed to a diet:(
Here’s the thing though……
If you don’t put yourself out there, how will you know what you can do?
Now I’m not saying that we all need to run marathons, complete an ironman, or even run any races. I’m saying that we need to be honest with ourselves, our goals, and what we really want. If you never set any goals, how will you know when you’ve gotten to where you want to go?
I have a friend whose goal is simply to run 3 times a week. Another friend wants to qualify for Boston. Others streak every day for a mininimum of a mile. Some have BIG goals and others are just starting out and want to be able to run a mile. No matter what the goal, no matter how big or small you think they are, it important to have them.
I’m beginning to wonder if this is my problem with my NYCM training. Yes my goal last year was to quality which I did, but now I really don’t have a goal. I’ve already run 2 road marathons. Last year I set a private goal for the Marine Corps Marathon of finishing in 4:30 which I missed by 8 minutes and 14 seconds (yes, the seconds count). So maybe part of my problem is that in the back of my mind I’m wondering if I won’t be able to do it this time either. A little self sabotage goes a long way.
There is a saying that I love about children. It speaks about how children become what you tell them they can or can not be. The same thing applies to adults though. If your inner voice says you can’t do something, you won’t ever do it.
So it’s time I take my own advice and remember……
It’s better to have tried and failed than to never have tried in the first place.
What are your goals?