As much as this sucks….
And it does.
As hard as this may be…..
It’s harder for some than others.
We must look for the good. We must look for the silver lining. We must look for the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. We must look to the helpers. We must focus on more than the negativity, the trauma, the losses. We must acknowledge the bad. We must pay attention. We must listen, but we can not bathe in it.
One thing that I have noticed that I haven’t really seen in a long time. I’m noticing families coming together – physically. I’m noticing families spending time together. I’m noticing families sitting on the porch while their children play in yard. I’m noticing families taking walks together. I’m sure many are even eating dinner together. And while this has always been happening, it has not happened at the levels currently.
This has only happened because the world stopped, the calendars cleared, and there was nothing else that needed to be gone to. No soccer games filling up weekend. No school events. No this. No that. Nothing but having to be home with the people who mean the most, but we don’t often spend quality time together because we are all so busy.
Today I had no excuse to skip my run because I had no where else I needed to be. I even had time to take the dogs for a walk before I headed out. While out and about running, I saw the parents walking with their teens (if you have teens you know how big that is). I saw Moms/Dads pulling wagons on young kids. Family bike rides. Elderly couples walking together. I will admit as someone who runs outside frequently, the level of families out together right now is unprecedented.
So I ran. I enjoyed the sun, the wind on my face and thankful to be outside. I went out running wanting to do about 7 to 8 miles. I got 7 in and was happy. There was not agenda. There was no pace. There was not “have to.” There was just I wanted to go for a long run. So I did. Funny thing is that I had a great run. My splits weren’t pristine and I wasn’t trying to be. Running to run and it was enough. Also maybe to run off all the junk I’ve been eating.
My hope is that when this is over and life turns back to “normal” that we reflect on where they spend their time as their calendars fill up. Is it necessary to be busy, busy, busy all the time. Is it necessary for our kids to be scheduled, scheduled, scheduled from morning till night. My hope is that we will remember having time to actually sit and enjoy just being. Being with our families. Being able to have time to think without worrying what is on our calendars. Most of all remember that chasing the brass ring isn’t necessarily what life is all about.
PS – Don’t worry for everyone’s protection as I ran today, if I saw a family I crossed the street. I adjusted my route. I stayed away.